Incredibly shocking and sad news has spread around the world during the past week. Russia has started a war against Ukraine.
It means that now Ukraine’s 7.5 million children are in the middle of the war. Needless to say that their level of learning, mental health, the potential for long-term trauma - and their lives are at risk.
There are also children all around the world that are not physically in the middle of the war, but they are still very aware and affected by it. Children might sense that adults feel more stressed and worried than usual.
The smaller the child, the safer they get to be from the news and conversations concerning the war. They do not yet understand what 'a war' means and it is good that way. Close the tv when the news is coming, do not discuss shocking issues when children are close by, and just try to focus on normal daily routine. If the child is acting normal, there is nothing to worry about.
Older children see and hear things differently and absorb news easily, especially if they have their own phones. Photos in social media and news, as well as conversations between adults, bring the war closer. Those children who are not directly affected by the war – may be affected by it indirectly.
Five tips from a psychologist and child counselor
Many are frightened and don't know what to expect. Children might have questions.
So, to help educators, parents, family, and caregivers navigate the overwhelming task of responding to children's fears and worries, Ane Lemche, a psychologist and child counselor at Save the Children, has shared five tips on how to speak to children about war:
1. Make time and listen
Give children the space to talk when they want to – even if you're in the middle of something else. Encourage them to tell you what they know, how they feel, and to ask you questions.
2. Tailor the conversation to the child
A good guideline is: answer only to the question the child is asking.
Older children will need more details while younger ones may be satisfied just by understanding that sometimes countries fight. Be informed, keep calm, and answer questions honestly. Begin with simple information – too much detail may overwhelm and cause anxiety.