When the new term starts, mornings can be tough. Going to a new preschool, with new educators, and new children, might be scary for many children. When parents drop off the children at daycare everything is not always that quick and simple. Saying goodbye can make children feel sad and upset. Tears are falling and the child is clinging to the caregiver's leg - how to get out of this situation without more distress and panic??
Here are some tips on how to manage separation anxiety and how educators can help children feel safer and more secure.
What is separation anxiety?
Many children experience separation anxiety as it is a normal part of child development. Separation anxiety is a sign of a meaningful attachment.
Infants
Separation anxiety develops after a child gains an understanding of object permanence. Once an infant realizes the parent is gone, she might get restless. Most infants develop separation anxiety around 9 months of age. The separations might feel worse if the infant is hungry, tired, or otherwise not feeling well.
Toddlers
Some toddlers might not have separation anxiety during infancy but start demonstrating it around 18 months of age. Again, separations are more difficult if children are hungry, tired, or ill. As toddlers become more independent they can also act more dramatic during the separations.
Preschoolers
By the time children are 3 years of age, some can still have separation anxiety. It is the key to being consistent with the morning routine and sticking to the original plan. At this age, children understand much more, so it is a good idea to explain for example when the parent is coming back to pick the child up.